TeamSkyFans said:
Oh I get that, and i also realise in the case of bpc for instance its almost impossible for him to get a second chance as there are too many posters around here that would not allow him one. As soon as he says something that someone doesnt like people know exactly how to wind him up and get him to snap. Too late for him, but going forward for others I dont think life (or two or six month suspensions which to many members 6 months is effectively a life ban) help the situation.,
TSF, I suspect you come from the pov that things can be worked out and some form of understanding can be reached when there is a problem.
But the simple truth is, that this is true for most of us, but with some people that simply isn't the case. Or would only be possible if we accepted all their conditions, even when they break the forum behavioural rules that apply to us.
I get why you argue for second chances and clean slates.
However, when you tie that to the longer bans, you are missing something.
A 6-month ban, or a life-long ban, doesn't come out of the blue, and people who come back from them are not getting a "second change", as you suggest. But already had the fourth, fifth, eight....
There will have been a long run-up to it - repeated warnings and communication efforts, and -depending on the case- on the whole one or more smaller suspensions too.
So by the time the 6-month stage is reached, we are already dealing with someone who doesn't respond well to that "second chance might/should work" approach, that you envision. Or who seriously flouted the terms and conditions that went with getting that 2nd chance (or 3rd, or 4th).
In the end you need something in place that deals with that. What would you propose? Because what you suggest, giving people a
second chance is the hurdle that already has been jumped, and really failed the first time they were be given it. You are not dealing well with appeals to curb the
excesses in their behaviour.
If you say that you slowly increase the level of warnings and reprimands,
that is exactly what those 6-month and life-bans are.
It will be clear why we cannot tolerate letting anyone bypass a suspension by creating another account, without us approving that, short or long. It also wouldn't be fair to the folk who do take their minute on the naughty step to reflect, and return when their time is up.
I think you are actually wrong to assume that the second accounts are creating problems that would otherwise not be there.
Because those "second accounts" you talk (initially) only came to our attention
after they yet again became problematic. Which by definition means that you are dealing people
who didn't even take the second change they created for themselves, and blend in with the rest. Or were likely to behave better on their first account before they lost access to it, if we had kept their access in tact.
Some really aren't here to let others have their fun. By the time they get to 6-months or more, they will have shown a blatant disrespect for others, usually refusing to walk one inch in a direction they don't like. Ironically, it is usually whilst claiming at the same time that we should accept their terms for being here, show some respect to them.
I'm not saying that it is all done with malicious intent (although some of it clearly is). I'm even sure that there are people who I might on smashingly in private.
It is a sad reality that we do have to jump in at times, and that some people will simply not back down or adopt a different tune. In the end, we do have to deal with that in way that solves the problem. Trust me, banning folk is the last thing we became mods for. Ideally we do nothing and people self-moderate.
I hinted at some of the efforts that go on
to keep people here even if they are not our version of "ideal forum participant". So when we get to "second chance" number 5, and you are still blowing it, there really is no other route left than to show some folk the door.
And remember,we are only talking about a handful of cases within the large pool of people that visit the forum. Long bans are rare here.