Zam_Olyas said:
I know. I may get to like it. internet should be fun and not all serious.
It should be, but it's not for certain posters. I've been a moderator on the biggest, most extensive Caribbean island forum for a number of years and every time I've said to myself "now I've seen it all" something pops up that makes me reconsider this notion.
Patience is the key to being a mod. You have to not take things personally. It's one thing to have someone disagree with how the site is moderated. It's another thing when someone goes about it in a disrespectful and belligerent manner, especially when a particular mod is called out.
Respect is not a one-way street. Some of you need to realize that regardless of how many posts you have and how long you've been a member, this doesn't accord you any type of special status. You're a member of the forum just like anyone else.
This is not the NBA, where superstars get preferential treatment from the referees. Here, an infraction is an infraction and it applies to all. And when you make a comment worthy of either editing or deletion, it will get edited or deleted.
What some don't realize is that when you come at a mod in a disrespectful manner, especially in public without contacting the mod in question first via pm to see if the disagreement can be dealt with off-site, you lose a lot of credibility when you resort to such sarcastic, snarky jabs.
This is not the way to handle issues. For those who don't comprehend this, here are some examples-
1) Why did you delete this particular post? I would like clarification on this.
2) Why are you such a dyck?
3) Why is (pick a moderator) still a moderator? He's the worst...
4) You're (again, pick a mod) the reason why members are leaving the site in droves.
If comments #2, #3, and #4 seem appropriate to any of you, whether they are sent via pm or posted publicly for all to see, then there is no need for further discussion on this matter because you will never get it. These comments are made willfully and purposely with malice aforethought.
But it needs to be said for the sake of airing it out and hopefully leading to some positive discussion. We as mods all feel the same way about the site, regardless of how we go about it. We are all individuals, not automatons. Yes, we have universal guidelines to follow, but we do not see all things the same way. For the most part, there should be unanimity in terms of how the rules are enforced, but we all have different ways of going about it.
None of us have delusions of grandeur about our roles here. We want the best for the site and would appreciate the type of dialog that is conducive to improving the site.
We don't know everything, and sometimes make mistakes, but we live, learn and try to improve. With the help of feedback from all of you, we can do this. I hope some of you understand the roles you play in this, and how one goes about it is sometimes more important than the point you are trying to get across.