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Well I have to accept what you say as I haven't been here long enough to notice a pattern. I know there are a few who like to stir the pot but as it isn't directed at me I guess I've no real right to comment. All I can say is I've dealt with the people I think are d1cks (and there are only two, everybody else seems nice enough) and I'd suggest you do the same. Its just an internet forum just like any internet forum...it only has the value you choose to give it, so if it is getting to you then cut the bits of it out that are troublesome. You don't even need to justify it to anybody.
JimmyFingers said:wendybnt said:JimmyFingers said:
Jimmy, there is a simply solution if you are feeling bullied. Put the perpetrators on ignore. I did exactly this to a couple of creeps who latched on to me pretty quickly, one of whom sent me unsolicited abusive emails. Problem solved, I don't have to read their ***, nor be on the receiving end of their personality disorders (remember, its the internet: you don't have to be stable to post on it)
There is another aspect to this, though, and that is that different sorts of behaviours deemed acceptable in one nation can be unacceptable in others, regardless of a shared language. Offence can be caused when none was intended. As you might see under my photo I hail from NZ, but live in the UK, via several other countries. I've been with the same Australian partner for quarter of a century, and whilst I picked up on the nuances of language pretty quickly it took him a little longer.
He caused offence to British people on numerous occasions, without realising that his behaviour was seen as crass. It took me many months to get him to understand that if he was having a friendly chat with somebody and they said something he didn't quite agree with, responding by saying "you're full of ***" wouldn't be interpreted as the friendly banter in which it was intended. His response was that the British are stuck-up. In reality, the problem wasn't the British, in whose country he lives, but his own ignorance of local manners.
It's the same all over the world. If you blow your nose in Japan you will offend. Seems strange, but true. This is an international forum and it needs to be born in mind that there is plenty of room for misunderstanding
I don't feel bullied. What I feel like is double standards are being applied. During the 2012 Giro d'Italia I referred to a group of Italian riders as a 'mob' and the clinic responded with outrage and I was warned by a moderator for 'cultural insensitivity'. However I feel like a completely different set of rules are in place for the British. I have seen some pretty monstrous things said about us and frankly I'm tired of seeing it. Yes I can put people on ignore, yes I can turn my back on the forum and walk away however I'm fed up seeing it and it being tolerated when my remark brought censure. There's a Brit on here, MartinGT, who hates Sky and think they are dirty as they come but I remember even he snapped and told people to pack it in.
And I know plenty of Aussies and Kiwis, have lived and worked in New Zealand so I know and appreciate Antipodean humour. What I wouldn't do is go onto an internet board and try to characterise them as a country full of thick convicts totally devoid of culture (as an example). Because its a stereotype, and because I'm not a tosser.
Well I have to accept what you say as I haven't been here long enough to notice a pattern. I know there are a few who like to stir the pot but as it isn't directed at me I guess I've no real right to comment. All I can say is I've dealt with the people I think are d1cks (and there are only two, everybody else seems nice enough) and I'd suggest you do the same. Its just an internet forum just like any internet forum...it only has the value you choose to give it, so if it is getting to you then cut the bits of it out that are troublesome. You don't even need to justify it to anybody.
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