Flicker, you have given your pov. Others have given the counter pov, one that, I suggest, is the one that is a lot wider shared.
To suggest there is a correct way, or a better way, or an incorrect way, is, well, pretty damn arrogant, all the more if you do it from a comfortable distance.
I suggest Flicker, that if you had stated that what you wished for was your personal and idealized preference, folk wouldn't even have had a problem with it. Heck, I am the first to say that I would have loved to have seen Farrar or a Trekkie earn a stage win here. We probably all have things that we would have cheered to the rafters if they had gone for it. The problem isn't with your personal pov, but the way you appear to prescribe it to others, and, by extension, condemn the riders that couldn't face it.
On the whole, most of us tend to let folk figure out for themselves how they want to deal with grief that hit very close to home, and respect their wishes and choices.
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I also think that for the sake of this Giro race thread, that discussion about what is and isn't appropriate is declared off topic in this thread. There is a clear thread in this forum where people can discuss "where the Giro goes from here".
This is the stage race thread.
It will be impossible to insist that Wouter doesn't get mentioned today, nor can I see a reason why that would be unwelcome or unwise.
However, emotions are still pretty raw and responses are understandably agitated when people display a lack of empathy to the feeling of others.
If people do mention him, we will expect that it is done appropriate, respectful, and with the pov of others taken in mind. If you need to be the wiser one, do so, bite your tongue, and avoid the initiation of a discussion, or the continuation of discussions with opinions that are a bit out there on their own.
Anyone stirring things up, or seen to be stirring thing up, won't get much sympathy from us today. Avoid discussions about the 'correct' way to do things, and accept that others might see that differently.
It is Stage 5 today, and there is some stirring stuff up ahead too. If anyone wants to honour the guy who just died, let's make this a Giro that showed how great cycling is on its own, in tragedy, and in the way it deals with that.
The riders who could bring themselves to continue, will do that on the road for us. I am kinda hoping the same from us here. Let's make this Giro a communal celebration of cycling and what makes it great. It's why we are here in the first place, to share our passion.